I'm going to mix it up a bit & shoot straight from the hip. I'm being very transparent here on a post that can be viewed from anywhere in the world, since this is a public blog. Sometimes however, a person's gotta do what a person's gotta do. The following subject matter has bothered me for some time & I suspect that others can relate.
I like to help others. I feel compassion & empathy for those who are hurting or who just need simple kindness shown to them. I'm naturally helpful, so much so, that it can be annoying to some & exhausting to me! The problem with trying to be of service/assistance toward others is that rather than it giving me joy, it often bites me in the butt.
Either people will take advantage of & expect more of me than I am able to give, or they will accuse me of deliberately inserting myself into other people's business because of some sick need to meddle when my own needs to be helpful aren't being met. I'll take personal ownership of my inability to establish healthy boundaries for myself & as a result, allowing people to take advantage of me. I'm working on that. But in no way do I take on the problems of others as my own when I have not been invited to do so. Quite the contrary, people often come to me & ask me to help.
So in conclusion, I DO want to help others. That's one of the main reasons for my blog. I like having this outlet to express myself, but I also like to think that someone reading my words might find some measure of comfort or encouragement, or they might find that they can at least relate & are not alone. Let nobody mistake however, my compassion, empathy & desire to help as some need on my part to meddle or to stir up trouble for others where none existed before I came along. I have enough of my own stress, thank you very much! I'll help when asked & I'll stand up against bullies, but I most certainly will NOT go looking for additional stress by showing up in someone's life uninvited & asking if I can help clean that person's plate when I have an overly full plate of my own. That is just not me. And although I am nice (everyone who knows me knows this about me), I will also not be bullied & I WILL stand up for myself no matter who it is who does the accusing. Now I KNOW there are people out there like me, who can relate!!
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