Man Up Already!!!

This is a rant, really. I have a huge pet peeve. I cannot stand it when people don't take responsibility for their own behaviors, & they either deny all ownership, or they deflect blame to someone else. Far too many people do this. It is difficult to work for a boss who makes the work day unbearable for employees & then blames the employees for their lack of productivity because of the morale that was killed by that boss's behavior & treatment of others. My biggest issue comes from those who know in their heart that they are in the wrong, but they refuse to admit it. Such people would rather see a relationship fail, others hurt or upset, & situations blown out of proportion & made worse, than to admit they were in the wrong & take responsibility for trying to make things right.

Kindness

People often think it takes a lot of effort to be kind, especially when the person one is trying to be kind to has just severed that person's last nerve.

Being kind is a choice. We can choose to be polite, kind, compassionate, patient, considerate etc., or we can choose to be difficult, obstinate, rude, inconsiderate, mean, vindictive & the list goes on.

ABUSERS, TAKE NOTE!!!

Today, I'm writing about something that is heavy on my heart & mind. It concerns the topic of abuse.  This topic is such a huge one, that there are so many things that could be said. Volumes & volumes of books dedicated to the subject of abuse, have been written. For now, I will stick to the subject of abuse in a romantic relationship, although what I say could apply to platonic & friendship relationships as well.

Respect

This is a long post. Brace yourselves.......

Respect was important, as I was growing up. If any of my 5 siblings or I showed disrespect toward my parents, we either got "the look" from my father, the "I'm very disappointed in you" from my mother, a spanking on the bottom (depending upon the degree of disrespect), or we were made to brush our teeth with a bar of soap (reserved for times of extreme sassing, such as the time when I yelled at the top of my lungs that I hated my father's guts, just because he scolded me for being sloppy when I was drying the dishes). Before anyone cries "ABUSE!!", let me just say that I never felt abused as a child. I grew up in a very loving home, by two very wonderful parents. My parents loved me enough to discipline me when I needed it. Back then, parents weren't afraid to discipline their kids, because it was called good parenting. I felt secure & safe because I knew what my boundaries were, & I knew my parents cared enough about me to set them.

Manners? What Manners?

Our society has lost its manners.  I don't post the following examples of bad manners in order to be negative, because who likes negativity, right? I'm only posting it because I figured that if enough people can relate to being frustrated at some of these examples, then maybe together, we can try to make a difference, so that we can bring some semblance of manners back to our society:

• Driver stops for pedestrian who is crossing illegally in front of him. Driver behind honks rudely at first driver, all because he was in a hurry. He could care less about the pedestrian.

• Customer unloads full shopping cart & angrily disputes the price of several items. Customer hands cashier multiple items that she no longer wants, leaving it for store employees to put back. Customer takes her time to pay for her purchase, being completely oblivious to the fact that she has inconvenienced cashier, as well as the line full of people she kept waiting behind her.