No Longer the Victim

I don't need to be a victim.

I don't want to confess my pain.

I don't need to share my heartaches -

I want my dignity back again!!

I will no longer place blame with others

For the things they "should not have" done -

I'm responsible for the present.

I will leave the past alone.

I can't blame my loving family,

Nor my friends, nor someone else,

For the problems in my life - 

I am responsible for myself!!

"Woe is me" is gone forever

From my mouth, where once was home

To a host of negativity,

And where self-pity was free to roam.

I cannot change my history,

Nor undo the wrongs done unto me.

But I can make my future brighter,

By being the best that I can be.

For life's too precious to waste it fretting

Over events of yesterday.

I will live for every moment

And judge my life for just today!!

© Cari Kissel (first written in 1994...edited in 2013)

Forgiveness

My friend Kelly writes a blog. Kelly writes from her heart, & her posts are quite entertaining. Why am I talking about Kelly, you may ask? Because she inspired me. 
Kelly knew I was feeling a bit hurt because it seemed as if 
nobody cared about the things I had to say. 
She reminded me that writing can be cathartic, & that the motive for writing should be because I enjoy doing so. So with that in mind, this post is from my heart. I want to share some thoughts on the topic of forgiveness.

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ABUSERS, TAKE NOTE - Part 2

Just the other day, I published a post titled "ABUSERS, TAKE NOTE!!" I was inspired to write that post because I have a dear friend who is experiencing emotional & verbal abuse, & her abuser is extremely controlling - so controlling in fact, that he determines things such as when the TV is allowed to be on, what setting the air conditioner MUST be set at, what is bought at the store, etc., & he is the one who sets the tone for the home. I have spent probably hundreds of hours trying to help my friend over the course of the past couple of years, because she has been dealing with this for such a long time. "Why doesn't she just leave?" you say? There are many reasons why a victim of abuse doesn't leave the abusive relationship. There are so many reasons in fact, that I have included just a few of the reasons why an abuse victim may not leave the abusive relationship:

ABUSERS, TAKE NOTE!!!

Today, I'm writing about something that is heavy on my heart & mind. It concerns the topic of abuse.  This topic is such a huge one, that there are so many things that could be said. Volumes & volumes of books dedicated to the subject of abuse, have been written. For now, I will stick to the subject of abuse in a romantic relationship, although what I say could apply to platonic & friendship relationships as well.