Show Me While I'm Living

Show me while I'm living,

That you really care.

Don't show me at my funeral,

When I'm not really there.

ABUSERS, TAKE NOTE - Part 2

Just the other day, I published a post titled "ABUSERS, TAKE NOTE!!" I was inspired to write that post because I have a dear friend who is experiencing emotional & verbal abuse, & her abuser is extremely controlling - so controlling in fact, that he determines things such as when the TV is allowed to be on, what setting the air conditioner MUST be set at, what is bought at the store, etc., & he is the one who sets the tone for the home. I have spent probably hundreds of hours trying to help my friend over the course of the past couple of years, because she has been dealing with this for such a long time. "Why doesn't she just leave?" you say? There are many reasons why a victim of abuse doesn't leave the abusive relationship. There are so many reasons in fact, that I have included just a few of the reasons why an abuse victim may not leave the abusive relationship:

Parental Alienation: Turning Kids Against the Non-Custodial Parent

With so many marriages ending in divorce, & so many single-parent homes these days, it's only natural that there may be some negative feelings with regard to the person you are no longer in a relationship with. While there are certainly exceptions to the rule, the majority of broken relationships do not end with warm fuzzy feelings being exchanged between the two people who are ending their relationship. If you find yourself in this type of situation, then undoubtedly, it will be difficult to keep your feelings & emotions to yourself while around your children. A relationship loss, even if it's expected, planned or hoped for, is still a loss, & there is still a grieving process that takes place, as well as an adjustment period.